Stephen Kuhn

Stephen Kuhn has been leading recovery groups, speaking at college campuses, and providing free online counseling through Belt of Truth Ministries ever since he got steamrolled by Jesus and set free from the chains of porn addiction. His passion is to allow God to use the story of redemption in his life to encourage other men to seek healing through the work of Christ as well.

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Smart Quote of the Week: Dietrich Bonhoeffer

He who is alone with his sin is utterly alone. . . . But it is the grace of the gospel, which is so hard for the pious to understand, that confronts us with the truth and says: You are a sinner, a great, desperate sinner; now come as the sinner you are, to the God who loves you.

Thoughts on this quote? Feel free to discuss them in the comments below.

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, we roundup the best links, articles, and videos we find that are relevant to finding freedom from pornography addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it doesn’t necessarily mean we agree with everything in the linked article. It just means we found it interesting enough to share.


Carl Thomas: Talking To Your Kids About Porn, Sharks, And Sh*t

“If we wait too long to talk to our kids about porn or sex because of fear they will eventually see or hear about it on their own.

Shaunti Feldhahn: Busting Cultural Myths About Marriage and Divorce

“Those of us who work with marriages may secretly wonder whether there is reason for our ministry, if the news about the divorce rate is better than we think. And the answer is a resounding yes.”

The Village Church: Are All Sins Equal?

“Don’t buy into the lie that you might as well have premarital sex since you are addicted to porn, anyway. Lesser sins have a way of begetting greater ones.”

Dave Willis: How to Fix Your Marriage

Smart Quote of the Week: C.S. Lewis

“I sometimes pray ‘Lord give me no more and no less self-knowledge than I can at this moment make a good use of.’ Remember He is the artist and you are only the picture. You can’t see it. So quietly submit to be painted.” —C.S. Lewis

Thoughts on this quote? Feel free to discuss them in the comments below.

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, we roundup the best links, articles, and videos we find that are relevant to finding freedom from pornography addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it doesn’t necessarily mean we agree with everything in the linked article. It just means we found it interesting enough to share.


Covenant Eyes: Husbands Who Watch Porn—12 Ways to Reassure Your Wife

“Men…what can you do to reassure [your wife] of your love and devotion, despite the fact that you haven’t gotten to the bottom of your pornographic obsession yet?

And Sons: The Litmus Test

“Last week I was in a gathering of men when one of the single guys asked a question—maybe The Question. ‘How do you know when a girl is the right one?’ Or something like that. A mighty important question. Wish I knew the answer years ago.”

Relevant: Watching Porn Linked to a Decrease in Gray Matter

“The jury is still out on whether watching porn actually eats away at your gray matter or people who have less gray matter to begin with are more likely to consume pornography in higher quantities, but either way, studies show that it’s not an intellectually healthy activity.”

TrueFaced: She doubts that God wants anything to do with her

Book Review: Eyes of Integrity (Free Download)

Eyes of Integrity“The sheer number of people mired in the destructive world of online pornography is overwhelming. Every day lives are broken, hearts and minds are corrupted. How can we help free the many hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions, of people trapped by sexual addiction?” 

This is the question Craig Gross attempts to answer in Eyes of Integrityand I believe he does an excellent job.

Eyes of Integrity begins with a description of how widespread porn addiction has become, not only for nonbelievers, but for those in the church as well. The book also outlines what healthy biblical sexuality and wholeness can look like for men, women, couples, and even those who are part of the pornography industry themselves.

More importantly though, Eyes of Integrity offers advice on how each of these groups can overcome (or help others overcome) the temptation of pornography by implementing practical techniques and trusting in the healing power of Christ.

The book has a heavy emphasis on accountability and the necessity for a safe community to come beside you in your struggle. Some readers, however, have misinterpreted this as a marketing strategy to sell x3watch, the accountability software produced by the author’s ministry. I must disagree with these readers though, as I whole-heartedly believe this type of accountability is vital in anyone’s recovery. I encourage you consider the author’s suggestions regardless of his involvement with the recommended product (which, consequently, is free—so there really isn’t any financial incentive to promote it).

I highly recommend you read Eyes of Integrity. I also recommend you check out Craig Gross’s ministry site, XXXchurch.com, where you will find a ton of additional resources to help you find freedom from pornography addiction.

From Amazon: As a young pastor, Craig Gross became overwhelmed with the sheer number of people he found himself counseling who were mired in the destructive world of online pornography. Their lives were broken, their hearts and minds corrupted. How, he wondered, could he minister to the many hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions, of people trapped by sexual addiction?

Through accountability software and an online hub called XXXchurch.com, Craig began to give hope. Now, with Eyes of Integrity, he offers a helping hand to pastors, counselors, concerned friends, and those personally struggling with sexual addiction. Through these pages he and coauthor Jason Harper cover how bad the problem is and what can be done about it. From porn-proofing your home and nurturing your marriage to what to do when someone you know is in trouble, the chapters in this book offer hope in what can seem like a hopeless situation.

Smart Quote of the Week: Frank Viola

“When Satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future.” —Frank Viola

Thoughts on this quote? Feel free to discuss them in the comments below.

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, we roundup the best links, articles, and videos we find that are relevant to finding freedom from pornography addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it doesn’t necessarily mean we agree with everything in the linked article. It just means we found it interesting enough to share.


Matt Fradd: How To Tell Your Fiance You Struggle With Porn

“No she doesn’t need to know, but it is her business. She’s discerning marriage with you, and therefore, it seems to me, she has a right to know (think of it as truth in advertising).”

Freedom In Christ Ministries: The Belt of Truth

“The first step in any recovery program is to face the truth and acknowledge our need for God, who alone has the power to overcome our sin.”

The Theology of the Muppets

I recently finished reading Jim Henson: The Biography and was struck by how perfectly the Muppets illustrate what Jesus teaches in John 15:

Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me (John 15:4).

To abide means “to remain; to continue; to stay.” In other words, to be absolutely dependent on Christ at all times. This is, in essence, the goal of the Christian life.

Abide in Me…

Muppets Right HandOne of my favorite parts of Jim’s biography was being allowed behind the curtain to see how he brought the Muppets to life. Many of the Muppets required two performers to operate them—one to work the mouth and left hand, and a second to work the right hand (a literal “right hand man”).

In order for the Muppet to be believable as living creatures, both of the performers had to work in perfect unity. If the right hand man was even a half step behind the primary performer, the delay would be distracting and the illusion was lost. This was quite a problem until Jim came up with the perfect solution.

He would have his right hand man reach around and hold his belt loop with their free hand, connecting the two performers together and allowing them to move as one. Instead of trying to anticipate Jim’s next move, the right hand man could follow his lead subconsciously.

Likewise, instead of fretting about what Jesus wants you to do or what your next move should be, you simply need to abide in Him. Your job is to remain so closely connected to Christ that you naturally end up wherever He wants to take you.

…and I in you.

In addition to you abiding in Christ, Christ abides in you. The moment you put your trust in Jesus, you become fused with Him. His Spirit moves into your heart, filling you with His life.

Jim and KermitWhen you watch The Muppet Show, it’s obvious the human guests believe they are interacting with a living character. The conversations, especially with kids, are priceless. Even as a viewer, you often forget you are watching a piece of fabric being manipulated by a performer’s hand. The illusion of life is nothing short of magical.

But without Jim’s hand “abiding” in Kermit the Frog, the puppet has no life. It’s just a bag of green felt with some ping-pong balls glued to it. In fact, many guests would comment on how creepy it was to see muppets piled lifelessly on the floor during breaks, comparing them to corpses.

In the same way, it’s Christ within you that makes you to come alive and gives you the ability to live the Christian life. Apart from Him, you can do nothing.

You are more than a Puppet

God didn’t create you just to be a puppet for Him to control. He will always give you the freedom to make your own decisions. For example, you have the option between trying to control your own life or trusting Jesus to live His life through you. Only one of those paths will lead you to eternal life though.

If you’re trying to control life on your own, I’d encourage you to consider how well it’s working for you. If you’re being honest, it’s probably about as productive as Kermit trying to perform without Jim Henson bringing him to life.

Friends, please don’t settle for anything less than real life.

Trust Jesus to make you come alive.

Abide in Him.

Together, the two of you will create something truly magical.

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