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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | How Can I Prepare for My Husband’s Next Porn Relapse?

“Preparedness doesn’t necessarily mean bracing for an event that’s inevitable. Sometimes, preparedness simply means taking proactive steps to protect oneself just in case an event may (or may not ever) happen.”

Wm. Paul Young | God is a Christian

“Why do we do this? Why must we insist on creating ways to define ourselves in opposition to someone else? Why do we then build empires based on these divisions, justifying our superiority and our brutality? We act as if our empires are condoned and supported by God.”

Christianity Today | Kay Warren: ‘We Were in Marital Hell’

“Our brand-new marriage took an instant nosedive. We didn’t even make it to the end of our two-week honeymoon to British Columbia before we knew our relationship was in serious trouble. We had been warned about five areas of potential conflict all couples have to deal with, and we immediately jumped into all five of them: sex, communication, money, children, and in-laws.”

Desiring God | Beat Porn By Enjoying Jesus More

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Denny Burk | Treating young women as sisters in absolute purity

“It is likely that Paul adds a word about sexual purity because there is a particular pitfall that is all too common—sexual immorality. A pastor who has learned the art of communicating with warmth and compassion can easily find himself in a situation of emotional connection with a woman that he ought not have such a connection with. And so Paul says that there must be no hint of impropriety in his ministry to younger women.”

Shaunti Feldhahn | You need to know these four pitfalls for teenage boys

“Even the most honorable, godly young men have a deep-down curiosity to see the naked female form. And once they do, they are usually incredibly tempted to do whatever is necessary, to click on whatever link, to investigate whatever source will allow them to see it again.”

Ransomed Heart | What Does Eve Speak to Us?

“First, you’ll discover that God is relational to his core, that he has a heart for romance. Second, that he longs to share adventures with us—adventures we cannot accomplish without him. And finally, that God has a beauty to unveil. A beauty that is captivating and powerfully redemptive.”

The Gospel Project | The Passage that Wrecked a Self-Righteous Church Kid

“I began to take my faith more seriously in high school when friends in my public school started asking me questions—questions I didn’t have the answers to. In addition, I knew my squeaky-cleanness was only external—secret sins had a grip on my heart in a way Christ didn’t. I knew answers were out there for these questions and my struggles, I just hadn’t found them yet.”

The Bible Project | Holy Spirit

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


XXXChurch | 3 Things That Kept This Pastor Stuck

“If you’re anything like me and you are still carrying around a secret that is killing you, watch out for these things. One or some of them could be why you’re still struggling to find success.”

CovenantEyes | The Curious Correlation Between Porn and Erectile Dysfunction (PIED)

“Researchers surveyed 312 men, ages 20 to 40, who visited a San Diego urology clinic for treatment. Of those men, 3.4% said they preferred masturbating to pornography over sexual intercourse. In talking to these men, the researchers found a correlation between pornography use and sexual dysfunction for those who regularly masturbate while using porn.”

Lifeway Men | I Believe in the Holy Spirit

“It’s vital for believers to be able to discern spiritual truth from lies. One job of the Holy Spirit is to help us read and understand the Bible. This doctrine is called illumination. Illumination means God must enlighten the human mind in order for us to understand the things of God. The Spirit renews our minds and restores our senses by revealing spiritual truth to us.”

Stuart Hazeldine | Does ‘The Shack’ Teach Universalism?

“No, I don’t believe all roads lead to God, but I do believe that God goes down any road to find us – this I stated clearly in The Shack. Otherwise, the Incarnation and the Passion of Jesus would be meaningless.”

Streetlights Bible | Ephesians 3

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


GCD | 3 Ways Sin Attacks

“As pastors or small group leaders, let’s give people the gospel that transforms us from the inside out. As we point people back to Christ and all he has done, his grace transforms us and enables us to fight sin. With people being aware of their own sin and the one who has done something about it, our people are better equipped to withstand and fight the attacks of Satan and the attacks of the world.”

Dave Willis | 10 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce or Separation

“People who choose to get divorced have often endured years of frustration and exhaustion, but the problem is, we tend to make our worst decisions when we’re exhausted and frustrated. These questions below can help you approach these major life decisions with more clarity.”

Key Life | I’m a Crappy Christian

“When I consider the last decade and a half, I’ve thought of Jesus as a life coach, as the deity who handed me a moral checklist, as a movement leader who was inviting me to become great by my association with him. He was a visionary leader with a brilliant plan to homogenize culture. Between you and me, I was using God for his gifts rather than loving him as The Giver. I was using god stuff (formulas for creating movements, personal discipleship programs, becoming an insider of an influential church) to ensure positive outcomes for my life. And all of that is a pagan enterprise.”

Gospel Coalition | 6 Ways to Avoid Delayed Adulthood

“So how can the next generation move toward maturity? How can adolescents grow into young adults? How can college students move through the college years with increasing integrity, character, maturity, skill, and productivity?”

Dan Stevers | Evermore

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


The Gospel Project Blog | You Are Simply His Son

“Within this verse is a truth that, if fully believed and cherished, would solve much of the identity crisis in the Church today. It is a profound theological truth about what God has actually done for us in the death and resurrection of Jesus. He has made us His children.”

DesiringGod | What If My Husband Looks at Porn?

“Through a lot of counseling, tears, discussions, and prayer — a long process of healing and grace-filled restoration in Christ — God has shown me several truths that might minister to other wives like me.”

Gospel Coalition | Women Use Porn Too

“We’re often uncomfortable talking about female use of pornography. It’s a delicate topic for pastors to address with women because sexuality, by nature, is intimate. Since confessing sexual sin to a male pastor or elder is difficult, many may be less aware of the problem.”

Mercy Me | Even If

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Brad Hambrick | Forgiveness After Adultery: What It Is And Is Not

“When we forgive we absorb the cost of someone else’s sin. But forgiveness should not be a blank check or it easily becomes foolish enablement or willful naivety. “

KeyLife | The One Worth Finding

“It’s been said that you shouldn’t feel guilty if your heart doesn’t break for the lost (that won’t do any good), but instead read Luke 15 until your heart does break for the lost. If you do read that chapter, you’ll see a joyous savior who loves to celebrate with the lost who’ve been found… and seeing Jesus that way will make you long for those who aren’t at the party.”

Leonard Sax | I Just Want Her to be Happy

“It is no use letting kids do whatever they desire unless you have first educated their desire. The first job of the parent is to educate the child’s desire: to instill a longing for something higher and better than video games or pornography or social media, whether that something be found in science, in music, in the arts, in nature, or in religion.”

TedX | Pornography Isn’t Your Problem

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


9Marks | Redefining Intimacy

“But what’s been hardest is how the church often discourages non-sexual intimacy too. Our response to the sexual revolution going on outside our doors has sadly just been to promote sexual intimacy in the context of Christian marriage. And to encourage people to keep it there by promising this will then deliver all the intimacy they’ve ever wanted.”

Christianity Today | 10 Things Sexual Assault Victims Want You to Know

“A few years ago, I conducted a similar informal survey on Twitter by sharing the story of being stalked by my high school teacher and using the hashtag #howoldwereyou. It generated an equally tremendous response.”

Head Heart Hand | Lies at the Heart of Addiction

“Every addict tells four kinds of lies: lies about God, lies about themselves, lies about the sin, and lies about others. The only way to deliver addicts is to rip out these lies and replace them with truth.”

KeyLife | Why Jesus Had to Die

“You have to check out love. If there is no expression of love, there is no love. A lot of things are defined by what they are; a few things are defined by what they do and love is one. Love is not just a word. Love must be expressed or it isn’t love. At the cross, Christ came and he died…because of love.”

For the Church | Man-Made Coverings

“Performance-based mentality asks the question, “How am I doing?” without a view of the free gift of grace in Christ. It’s present when we feel like we need to measure up to something or somebody in our minds or “out there” in social media, in church, or at work. It is present when we feel like we have to put on something, be someone else, cover up who we really are, or how we’re really doing on the inside.”

Relevant | This New Docudrama ‘The Heart of Man’ Retells the Story of the Prodigal Son

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback

“Setbacks remind you that you can’t win on your own. You need both God and helpful encouragement and accountability from a fellow Proven Man. Setbacks also cause you to examine other areas of your life that contribute to the problem. Without setbacks, you may continue to ignore selfishness or pride in your life that spurs you to lust or be lazy in guarding your eyes and hearts.”

Christianity Today | What Can the Church Learn about Sexual Harassment, Accusations, & Transparency from the Bill O’Reilly Debacle?

“When accusations are made, we need to take them seriously. And we need to respond in a way that affirms the value of women in our personal and organizational lives. There is a middle ground between unchecked acceptance of an accusation and unchecked dismissal. It’s called investigation.”

Matt Capps | There Are Three Kinds Of Men

“And because there are three classes, any merely twofold division of the world into good and bad is disastrous. It overlooks the fact that the members of the second class (to which most of us belong) are always and necessarily unhappy.”

Wm. Paul Young | Finding Life in Losing Control

“Like all relationships we always find ourselves, in one aspect or another, being out of control. In some instances we fight aggressively to gain control. We’ll go to all kinds of lengths to get it, even if it means breaking the spirit of those we love.”

Christianity Today | What the Church Says to Terrible People

“But Taylor questions whether this source of moral energy is really enough to sustain our universal ‘benevolence.’ After all, Taylor notes, ‘never before have people been asked to stretch out so far…as a matter of course, to the stranger outside the gates.’ In the long-term, without the fundamental energy of the gospel, what would broadly fuel these measures? The answer is shame.”

Heath McNease, JGivens, & Propaganda | Believe

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


XXXChurch | Can a Christian Ever Really Be Free from Porn?

“You see the Gospel message is not one of getting our crap together so we look good. It’s about laying our crap out for all to see and learning that our strength has nothing to do with how we appear, but rather in our honesty and openness to be real.”

Gospel Coalition | Do Paul and James Disagree on Justification by Faith Alone?

“Why do Paul and James sound so different? Why does it appear at first glance they contradict? We need to remember that letters were written to specific situations facing specific churches. Paul wrote to churches where people were tempted to trust in their works for salvation, while James wrote to those who were disposed to think intellectual assent could save them.”

Inklingations | The Other Woman

“I’ve read a lot of Christian books and heard a lot of Christian speakers talk about strategies for avoiding adultery. But I don’t believe I’ve ever read an entire chapter or listened to an entire session by a Christian on strategies for avoiding having an affair with work. Why is that?”

Challies | 10 Ugly Numbers Describing Pornography Use in 2017

“As Christians we can and must be prepared to help those who are struggling with it and to assure them that they can be forgiven and freed. As parents we can and must take action to protect and equip our children so we can help them overcome and avoid it.”

For the Church | Christian Life Beyond the Quiet Time

“So this is the primary purpose of that quiet time: not to primarily focus on the things to do, but to primarily focus on the reality that the work is done. Spiritual formation will take off with much more energy and much more joy when we are centering first on the finished work of Christ in our quiet times and only secondarily on the ongoing work of obedience.”

Speak Life | If You Had Been Here

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


KeyLife | Love for Losers

“There is no comprehending the logic of God’s love. It doesn’t follow our broken rules. It sounds stupid to help those who can never help you back. It seems foolish to we unaware criminals who worship justice. But to those who recognize that they’re withering away in this world, it’s butter, baby. And it’s free.”

EternityNews | My brokenness is no more or less broken than yours

“This is an issue the church has to confront more today than it ever has, at least in living memory. I am disappointed by the lack of grace and thoughtfulness that I often see in the words spoken by some Christian leaders, when speaking about this issue. It’s something I care about personally, not just because of my own attraction, but because I know a lot of people who suffer the effects of these comments and words.”

XXXchurch | 3 Reasons Why Porn Hurts Your Spouse’s Self-Esteem

“Porn addiction causes more damage to the people around you than you think. But there is hope and there can be healing, my husband and I are proof of that! So don’t give up.”

Communicate Jesus | 5 Challenges Experienced by Christian Men Today

“In the culture at large, confusion and shame abound and being a man is frequently communicated as an identity not to embrace but to apologise for. In the media, men are accused of male privilege, male chauvinism, mansplaining and misogyny. A friend is currently enrolled in a gender studies class at university and he told me that in every class the lecturer provides the same reason for the world’s problems – men.”

Southern Seminary | If Jesus already died for my sins, why do I need to pray for forgiveness every time I sin?