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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Brad Hambrick | Forgiveness After Adultery: What It Is And Is Not

“When we forgive we absorb the cost of someone else’s sin. But forgiveness should not be a blank check or it easily becomes foolish enablement or willful naivety. “

KeyLife | The One Worth Finding

“It’s been said that you shouldn’t feel guilty if your heart doesn’t break for the lost (that won’t do any good), but instead read Luke 15 until your heart does break for the lost. If you do read that chapter, you’ll see a joyous savior who loves to celebrate with the lost who’ve been found… and seeing Jesus that way will make you long for those who aren’t at the party.”

Leonard Sax | I Just Want Her to be Happy

“It is no use letting kids do whatever they desire unless you have first educated their desire. The first job of the parent is to educate the child’s desire: to instill a longing for something higher and better than video games or pornography or social media, whether that something be found in science, in music, in the arts, in nature, or in religion.”

TedX | Pornography Isn’t Your Problem

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


9Marks | Redefining Intimacy

“But what’s been hardest is how the church often discourages non-sexual intimacy too. Our response to the sexual revolution going on outside our doors has sadly just been to promote sexual intimacy in the context of Christian marriage. And to encourage people to keep it there by promising this will then deliver all the intimacy they’ve ever wanted.”

Christianity Today | 10 Things Sexual Assault Victims Want You to Know

“A few years ago, I conducted a similar informal survey on Twitter by sharing the story of being stalked by my high school teacher and using the hashtag #howoldwereyou. It generated an equally tremendous response.”

Head Heart Hand | Lies at the Heart of Addiction

“Every addict tells four kinds of lies: lies about God, lies about themselves, lies about the sin, and lies about others. The only way to deliver addicts is to rip out these lies and replace them with truth.”

KeyLife | Why Jesus Had to Die

“You have to check out love. If there is no expression of love, there is no love. A lot of things are defined by what they are; a few things are defined by what they do and love is one. Love is not just a word. Love must be expressed or it isn’t love. At the cross, Christ came and he died…because of love.”

For the Church | Man-Made Coverings

“Performance-based mentality asks the question, “How am I doing?” without a view of the free gift of grace in Christ. It’s present when we feel like we need to measure up to something or somebody in our minds or “out there” in social media, in church, or at work. It is present when we feel like we have to put on something, be someone else, cover up who we really are, or how we’re really doing on the inside.”

Relevant | This New Docudrama ‘The Heart of Man’ Retells the Story of the Prodigal Son

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | The Two Most Important Questions to Ask If You Have a Setback

“Setbacks remind you that you can’t win on your own. You need both God and helpful encouragement and accountability from a fellow Proven Man. Setbacks also cause you to examine other areas of your life that contribute to the problem. Without setbacks, you may continue to ignore selfishness or pride in your life that spurs you to lust or be lazy in guarding your eyes and hearts.”

Christianity Today | What Can the Church Learn about Sexual Harassment, Accusations, & Transparency from the Bill O’Reilly Debacle?

“When accusations are made, we need to take them seriously. And we need to respond in a way that affirms the value of women in our personal and organizational lives. There is a middle ground between unchecked acceptance of an accusation and unchecked dismissal. It’s called investigation.”

Matt Capps | There Are Three Kinds Of Men

“And because there are three classes, any merely twofold division of the world into good and bad is disastrous. It overlooks the fact that the members of the second class (to which most of us belong) are always and necessarily unhappy.”

Wm. Paul Young | Finding Life in Losing Control

“Like all relationships we always find ourselves, in one aspect or another, being out of control. In some instances we fight aggressively to gain control. We’ll go to all kinds of lengths to get it, even if it means breaking the spirit of those we love.”

Christianity Today | What the Church Says to Terrible People

“But Taylor questions whether this source of moral energy is really enough to sustain our universal ‘benevolence.’ After all, Taylor notes, ‘never before have people been asked to stretch out so far…as a matter of course, to the stranger outside the gates.’ In the long-term, without the fundamental energy of the gospel, what would broadly fuel these measures? The answer is shame.”

Heath McNease, JGivens, & Propaganda | Believe

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


XXXChurch | Can a Christian Ever Really Be Free from Porn?

“You see the Gospel message is not one of getting our crap together so we look good. It’s about laying our crap out for all to see and learning that our strength has nothing to do with how we appear, but rather in our honesty and openness to be real.”

Gospel Coalition | Do Paul and James Disagree on Justification by Faith Alone?

“Why do Paul and James sound so different? Why does it appear at first glance they contradict? We need to remember that letters were written to specific situations facing specific churches. Paul wrote to churches where people were tempted to trust in their works for salvation, while James wrote to those who were disposed to think intellectual assent could save them.”

Inklingations | The Other Woman

“I’ve read a lot of Christian books and heard a lot of Christian speakers talk about strategies for avoiding adultery. But I don’t believe I’ve ever read an entire chapter or listened to an entire session by a Christian on strategies for avoiding having an affair with work. Why is that?”

Challies | 10 Ugly Numbers Describing Pornography Use in 2017

“As Christians we can and must be prepared to help those who are struggling with it and to assure them that they can be forgiven and freed. As parents we can and must take action to protect and equip our children so we can help them overcome and avoid it.”

For the Church | Christian Life Beyond the Quiet Time

“So this is the primary purpose of that quiet time: not to primarily focus on the things to do, but to primarily focus on the reality that the work is done. Spiritual formation will take off with much more energy and much more joy when we are centering first on the finished work of Christ in our quiet times and only secondarily on the ongoing work of obedience.”

Speak Life | If You Had Been Here

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


KeyLife | Love for Losers

“There is no comprehending the logic of God’s love. It doesn’t follow our broken rules. It sounds stupid to help those who can never help you back. It seems foolish to we unaware criminals who worship justice. But to those who recognize that they’re withering away in this world, it’s butter, baby. And it’s free.”

EternityNews | My brokenness is no more or less broken than yours

“This is an issue the church has to confront more today than it ever has, at least in living memory. I am disappointed by the lack of grace and thoughtfulness that I often see in the words spoken by some Christian leaders, when speaking about this issue. It’s something I care about personally, not just because of my own attraction, but because I know a lot of people who suffer the effects of these comments and words.”

XXXchurch | 3 Reasons Why Porn Hurts Your Spouse’s Self-Esteem

“Porn addiction causes more damage to the people around you than you think. But there is hope and there can be healing, my husband and I are proof of that! So don’t give up.”

Communicate Jesus | 5 Challenges Experienced by Christian Men Today

“In the culture at large, confusion and shame abound and being a man is frequently communicated as an identity not to embrace but to apologise for. In the media, men are accused of male privilege, male chauvinism, mansplaining and misogyny. A friend is currently enrolled in a gender studies class at university and he told me that in every class the lecturer provides the same reason for the world’s problems – men.”

Southern Seminary | If Jesus already died for my sins, why do I need to pray for forgiveness every time I sin?

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Blogging Theologically | Everything Sad is Coming Untrue

“That is the good news of Easter, friends: Christ is risen—and everything sad is coming untrue. That is the good news we celebrate not simply on one day of the year, or even every Sunday, but every day!”

For the Church | Brother, I Wish I Would Have Known

“I never told anyone about my addiction. I went to class, talked about Jesus, attended church—all the things seminary students are supposed to do. And no one was ever the wiser, at least not to my knowledge. I often wondered when God was going to kill me for making such a mockery of his name. But instead of that, he woke me up one morning with a life-changing thought.”

XXXchurch | 3 Ways Pornography Distorts Your View of Yourself

“Ask anyone who has struggled with pornography addiction, and they will tell you it alters how they think and what they think about. It becomes not just a craving that needs a fix like a drug, but images force their way into your mind and stay there, nearly impossible to get out.”

Cranach | Exploding Myths about Cohabitation

“University of Virginia sociologist Bradford Wilcox has published a study of the effects of cohabitation, couples living together without marriage. He especially looked at the impact on children when their parents are not married.”

Streetlights | Romans 8

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


KeyLife | What is Christianity Ultimately About?

“As a pastor, I’ve seen way too many people pass out. They tried. They worked hard. They studied. They served. But it never seemed like enough or they never did it good enough. So, finally, in a fit of honesty and integrity, they threw their hands up in the air and quit. Their performances weren’t good enough, and they knew it.”

Wm. Paul Young | Lie #3: God is in Control

“There is an impassable chasm between a God who takes ownership for Creation along with the havoc we have produced—and One who authors the evil itself. The first you might learn to trust, the latter… twisted lip service at best.”

Gospel Coalition | 5 Christian Clichés that Need to Die

“One-liners aren’t always helpful. Sometimes, in our desire to simplify truth, we can trivialize and even obscure it. And to obscure the truth is to tell a lie.”

Strength to Fight | How to Build a Healthy Accountability Group

“At the centre of a healthy accountability group is vulnerability and truth. Practicing confession to your brothers or sisters is a gift from the Lord. Confession is the refusal to allow sin to dwell in darkness because in darkness it festers and begins to spread and grow. Confession is an act of humbling oneself before God and others.”

Grace Community Fellowship | The Effect Of Brokenness

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


AndSons | What Does “Masculinity” Mean?

“A deep, prevailing experience of disorientation is one of the great afflictions of our age—it cuts the heart—and if we’re going to get a handle on what the hell is going on, we’re going to have spend a little time defining the core elements of our experience, like man, masculinity, success, freedom, virtue, community, so that a few definite objects can hold down our life the way stakes hold down a tent.”

Christianity Today | False Intimacy: A Discussion on Pornography, the Brain, and Our Faith

“There’s a generation coming up, says Struthers, who’ve come of age with the Internet in their homes and have a dependency to pornography—it’s a self-medication. If we use a medical model, the young people today have almost an inoculation to pornography, it’s like a dead sexuality. They get little bits of it and it makes it difficult to enjoy true, embodied sexuality.”

Borrowed Light | Something I Never Noticed in Matthew 7:21-23

“No more hiding. No more distance. No more self-focus. But a heart that actually trusts the Lord. A heart that loves Him so much that you don’t just want to know facts about Him, or be a casual observer, or just know Him but to actually be known by Him.”

The Bible Project | The Book of Job

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Patheos | Megan Phelps-Roper Talks About How and Why She Left Westboro Baptist Church

“This has been at the front of my mind lately, because I can’t help but see in our public discourse so many of the same destructive impulses that ruled my former church. We celebrate tolerance and diversity more than at any other time in memory, and still we grow more and more divided. We want good things — justice, equality, freedom, dignity, prosperity — but the path we’ve chosen looks so much like the one I walked away from four years ago…”

Wm. Paul Young | Lie #1: God loves us, but doesn’t like us

“Even those who don’t believe that God exists are desperate to know that love does and that love knows who we are. More, we are driven from within to take the risk to ask of someone or Someone, Do you find anything in me that is lovable, that is enough, that is worthy of being loved?”

CovenantEyes | 6 Common Myths Wives of Porn Users Believe

“Porn is about escaping real life and entering into a fantasy world. It’s for numbing out—the exact opposite of what sex is designed to do, which is to be a way to engage intimately with your spouse. Your offering of more opportunity to engage does not satiate his need to numb out.”

9Marks | Singleness, Same-Sex Attraction, and the Church

“On the one hand, we should help our same-sex attracted single friend know that their struggle with sin may feel unique, but it’s not fundamentally different. Each individual we pastor or disciple is an image bearer who experiences the consequence of the Fall: original sin, indwelling sin, and actual sin.”

TrueFace | Two Roads

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Brad Hambrick | Manipulative Repentance: 8 Red Flag Phrases

“In this post, I hope to accomplish two things. First, I will attempt to clarify two common misperceptions about manipulation. Second, I will discuss a series of phrases commonly used in repentance which can be red flags that the remorse being expressed will not lead to healthy relational restoration.”

Preston Sprinkle | What Is A Christian Sexual Ethic?

“Most people today view marriage as a contract between two consenting people, who commit to loving each other until they fall out of love with each other, in which case they can break the contract and go about their way. When consent is the only rule, two adults can pretty much use marriage anyway they see fit.”

Michael Kelley | Kids, Asparagus, and the Command of Jesus

“In the end, though, our kids are compliant. They will eat it. Sure, it will be with plenty of drama as they force feed it to themselves one bite at a time, washed down with gallons of whatever drink they have, but after a couple of hours they will get it down. Because they are compliant, they will obey my command and go through the mechanics of eating what I tell them to eat.”

Key Life | Radical Grace… is Radical

“I mean exactly what I teach and, no matter how shocking, heretical and radical it sounds, it’s exactly what the Bible teaches about grace. In fact, it is the essence of the Christian faith. In our efforts to be religious, right and righteous, we sometimes forget how shocking and counterintuitive the message really is. Telling Christians that God will never be angry at them no matter what they do, where they go or how badly they screw up can be disconcerting.”

Living Out | Peter’s Story