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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Gospel Coalition | How to Be a Safe Space for the Same-Sex Attracted

“Neither the struggle nor the terror is uncommon. How, then, do we create an environment in our churches, small groups, and families where we can even have this conversation, where Lily can share her struggle without fear?”

Albert Mohler | Moralism is Not the Gospel (But Many Christians Think It Is)

“In our own context, one of the most seductive false gospels is moralism. This false gospel can take many forms and can emerge from any number of political and cultural impulses. Nevertheless, the basic structure of moralism comes down to this — the belief that the Gospel can be reduced to improvements in behavior.”

Key Life | A Ragamuffin’s Prayer

“Jesus, they told me I could lose my salvation. Is that true?”

CRU | Dear Christian Man, Why Are You so Lonely?

“Many men want great friendships without any risk factor. Sharing an area of struggle or telling someone who you want to get to know them better feels risky. It is risky. People can misunderstand us, judge us or otherwise disappoint us. If we’re honest, we’ve all known some form of rejection in our lives and we’d prefer to avoid that in our future. But the ability to be our authentic selves, our good, bad and ugly selves, is impossible without vulnerability.”

Shawn McDonald | Don’t Give Up

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Gospel Coalition | How to Survive a Moral Failing in Your Marriage

“While we should never think there is a magic formula for marital happiness, there does seem to be certain Gospel actions associated with miraculous recovery.”

Blogging Theologically | Lies We Tell Ourselves About Marriage

“While I don’t know that I would write these exactly the same way were I to do it again, I enjoyed going back and revisiting these, in part to see how the Lord has grown both Emily and I in the years since. Thankfully he has been extremely gracious, and given me a very patient wife who has helped me grow out of some of the silly attitudes and behaviors I allowed to creep in. And how he continues to be gracious as Emily patiently helps me grow out of my current silliness.”

Brad Hambrick | Hope & Restoration After Sexual Abuse

“These audio segments were taken from the live presentation of the “Hope & Restoration After Sexual Abuse” seminar presented at The Summit Church May 23 and 25, 2013.”

Christianity Today | Finding My ‘True Self’ as a Same-Sex Attracted Woman

“How can we better hold law and grace in an effective tension that allows us to maintain our convictions and also show love toward those who do not?”

John Lynch | The New Testament Gamble

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Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | 5 Reasons Porn Impacts Kids More Than Adults

“Simply having these, sometimes very awkward, discussions helps your kids process and re-encode how their brain deals with porn. It decreases the shame. They start to realize they don’t have to keep their parents and porn in separate places in their brain. It means they aren’t alone.”

Relevant | 7 Lies Culture Tells Us About Love and Romance

“The cultural perceptions of love speak so loud, in fact, and with such consistency that we would be naive to think we don’t enter into romantic relationships with a picture based largely on our surroundings.”

AndSons | How to Lead Guys, Outdoors and in the Garage

“This is an article for guys who are thinking of leading other guys. That might be into the woods, but it might be as a group in a community. Could be two dudes in a dorm room. We’ll start with general thoughts and move on to specific ideas.”

Feeding on Christ | The Grace of Confessing Sin

“This is not to suggest that believers are called to confess every sin to their pastor. Instead, it is focusing on some specific or more aggravated sin in the life of a believer that has perhaps brought about severe consequences. No matter what objections or nuances may be placed on this suggestion, it is clear that there is a blessing attached to confessing sin to the elders or other members of the local church of which one is a part. By way of deduction, we may say that the prayers of the elders and the people of God function as means of grace when one comes to them in brokenness and confession.”

Brennan Manning | Healing Our Image of God and Ourselves

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


J.D. Greear | Stop Trying to Grow the Fruits of the Spirit

“The more we soak ourselves in the love of Jesus, the more the fruit of the Spirit will naturally appear.”

Stand to Reason | The Pragmatic Benefits of God-Given Sexual Boundaries

“What happened between 20 and 50 years ago? The sexual revolution. No-fault divorce. Out-of-wedlock births. The study shows the pragmatic results of pursuing a sexual ethic we’re not designed for. Doing things as God designed for us actually has pragmatic benefits.”

Covenant Eyes | When Is Professional Help Needed in Porn Addiction Recovery?

“In this post I offer nine points of reflection to help you identify whether making the time and energy investment in counseling is wise for your life struggle. The more of these points you identify with, the more likely counseling would be a wise step for you.”

Randy Alcorn | Why the Coming Resurrection Frees You from the Bucket List Mentality

“Now, there’s a distinction between making a bucket list and having some things you would like to do and experience with your family if God gives you the opportunity. That is fine, of course. But if it is the bucket list in the sense of, ‘I’m going to kick the bucket, and this is my only opportunity as a physical person to do things in a physical world’—that’s utterly and completely unbiblical, contradicted start to finish by 1 Corinthians 15 and every passage that speaks of the resurrection and eternal life.”

The Bible Project | Word Study: Agape – “Love”

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Christianity Today | The Gospel Turns the ‘Try Harder’ Mentality on Its Head

“Our attempts, as followers of Christ, to grow in faith and ministry are valuable—but, ultimately, they serve to reveal our much greater need for his intervention. Regardless of the spiritual feats of greatness we’re attempting to accomplish in 2018, we must do so inChrist and with the gifting of his strength—apart from him, we can do nothing.”

Covenant Eyes | Why You Need Community While Battling Addiction

“More lies, masked as fears, fell flat of my worse expectations–a pattern that continued throughout my journey of freedom from porn’s addictive grip. By the way, Satan still tells me those same old lies. Except now I’ve wised up to his snake-in-the-garden-like tactics, and so can you. Shame is the voice of lies and the chief liar is Satan himself.”

Restoring the Soul | A Conversation With Dr. Dan Allender

“Dan is a renowned author, speaker, theologian, and psychologist whose writing, teaching and counseling has helped countless men and women find healing, redemption, and restoration for their soul and story. Enjoy the interview!”

Daily Wire | How To Betray Your Wife, Destroy Her Self-Worth, And Implode Your Marriage In One Easy Step

“Meanwhile, as it erodes the bonds of trust that keep your marriage together, porn also ruins your wife’s self-worth. It’s not hard to see why this happens. A woman will obviously begin to feel inadequate if her husband would dredge the depths of PornHub, searching desperately for literally any woman but his wife to satisfy his urges, rather than enjoy her.”

Newsong Church | The Leper

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Key Life | God Seriously Loves You!

“Have you gone too far for God to love you? What’s that sin that you committed that haunts you at night? You know, the one that if everyone found out, you’d be ruined? Consider that the people who Jesus goes to battle with are not the prostitutes, the downcast, the outcast, vagabonds, or drunks. It’s not the greedy tax-collectors, the broken down peasants in the countryside, the Good Friday thieves who were crucified on either side of him or even the Roman guard who nailed him to the wood.”

Radical Mentoring | Marriage…in Retrospect

“In retrospect, you see things you didn’t think about. You didn’t date long enough to see how she responded to stress. You didn’t plan for all these expenses. You didn’t realize how tired she’d be after working all day and how that would affect her interest in you. You didn’t think it would be this hard to have a kid and keep it fed, dry and quiet. And maybe you didn’t think she would show up on your radar. . . the perfect girl who has none of the issues your wife has.”

Scott Slayton | Five Obstacles that Dads Face

“It does not take long for men to discover that their sin will work its way into their parenting. It starts in the hospital when they are born and does not let up until we meet Jesus face to face. Sin, in general, harms our parenting, but there are some specific sins that trip us up.”

Trillia Newbell | Fighting Sin with Love

“We don’t love others because we are good people, we don’t even love God because of anything in and of ourselves (1 John 4:19). This is great news for us. It means we can ask God—the same God whose power changed our hearts of stone into hearts of flesh and whose power enables us to love him—to use the same power to enable us to love our neighbor as ourselves.”

Tim Challies | Why My Family Still Doesn’t Do Sleepovers

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Key Life | We Can’t Get Away from Jesus

“What really bothers me is that Christians are so spiritual they can’t enjoy the fun and celebration of Christmas…and don’t want anybody else to enjoy it either. I strongly suspect they once received underwear as a Christmas gift that was the wrong size…far too small. And instead of exchanging that underwear, they just keep on wearing it.”

Relevant | Jesus Called Christians to Be ‘Perfect.’ What Does That Mean?

“Why would Jesus command us to be perfect when He knew it was impossible? Was He just setting us up for failure? Toying with us?”

Grace Covers Me | What Our Children Will Remember About This Christmas

“Kids learn to love what makes their parents light up. I see it in my own kids now. My oldest son brings me the Sunday comics, points out a good strip, and waits expectantly to hear me laugh. All of my sons are adamantly loyal to my college team only because they know that I am. And when I ask them what they’re thankful for, they’ve learned to add a spiritual element, because they know Who it is that I love.”

Christianity Today | Two Marvelous Truths Help Me Say No to Sexual Sin

“So when temptations came, my main recourse was to white-knuckle my way through. And there was rarely a sense that the outcome was sure, that I knew my flesh would be subdued. It was like watching a live football game between well-matched teams, with real suspense over who would win. Praise God, I never acted on sexual temptation while married. But I did lose battles in my heart and mind frequently enough. This area of my life was managed but not joyful.”

Forest Hills Church | Christmas Presents

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | Porn and the Desire Dilemma

“Porn is so compelling because it sells itself as the perfect substitute for real communion and relationship. It stimulates our desire to be loved and wanted to the breaking point. It is the ultimate fantasy of fulfillment.”

Jay Sanders | Lessons for Rural Pastors from Bob Ross

“[I]n all of my years of watching my favorite painter, I think that I’ve been missing the point. Ross didn’t just want to paint pictures. He wanted to teach other people how to paint pictures.”

Gospel Coalition | The Joyous Story of Sex

“[W]hat if our cultural moment isn’t a death knell, but a trumpet call to something new? What if the church is only facing the loss of the deadweight of Christendom, while the Spirit gives birth to a fresh wave of winsome witness?”

Lifeway | Jesus’ Two Commitments to Men

“[U]nderneath all of our tragic attempts at finding masculinity lies something even more tragic: our shame at not being men. The surest thing a man knows about himself is that he is not one. He is not what he was meant to be. The shame of this resides deep in the core of our being, permeating everything we say and do.”

Joshua Harris | Strong Enough to Be Wrong

Weekly Web (W)roundup

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


CovenantEyes | When Holidays Aren’t Happy: 4 Ways to Deal with Grief and Porn Addiction

“There are many of you who have entered this holiday season with loss because of your spouse’s addiction. Whether s/he still struggles with pornography or is in active recovery, there are moments when we grieve what we’ve lost because of it. When we notice the sense of loss creeping up on us, we have choices about how we will deal with it, just as we do with any type of grief. We can pretend it’s not there, we can put on a happy face to get through the holidays and then cry alone in the dark. Or we can be real with our spouse, trusted friends, and Jesus.”

Key Life | Repent Now!

“I saw a bumper sticker once that read, ‘Sin Now, Repent Later!’ Truth is, as blasphemous as that sounds, it’s what most of us do anyway.”

Eternal Perspective Ministries | God’s Offer of Forgiveness and Freedom

“Because of Christ’s work on our behalf, we’re free to reject sin and its misery, and instead embrace righteousness and its joy. When we do this we’ll experience a flood of God’s grace in our lives, restoring us to the abundant life of walking with the One who is our Lord, King, and best Friend.”

Ligonier Ministries | The Great Exchanges of Romans

“In response to the great exchange that has been accomplished for us in Christ, there is an exchange accomplished in us by the Spirit: unbelief gives way to faith, rebellion is exchanged for trust. Justification—our being declared righteous and constituted in a righteous relationship with God—is not made ours by works, ceremonial or otherwise, but by the exercise of faith in Christ.”

Tim Challies | How To Use Accountability Software Right

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Each week, I round up the best resources, articles, and videos I find that are relevant to finding freedom from porn and sexual addiction. Please note that by posting a link here it does not mean I agree with everything in the linked article. It just means I found it interesting enough to share.


Relevant | What Christians Get Wrong About “Accountability”

“As long as we define our relationships by what we shouldn’t be doing, we’re encouraging people to hide their shadow selves from each other and God as they worry about not being accepted.”

NY Times | Married to a Mystery Man

“On the drive from the Calgary airport to the hotel for our honeymoon, my new husband casually mentioned that he would need to find a criminal defense attorney when we got home…”

Christianity Today | The Dead White Man Who Could Fix Our Race Problem

“This larger insight seems to be the point. What we see in each other starts with what we see in God.”

Biblical Counseling Coalition | My Five Counseling Goals for Session One

“I repeatedly find that when I meet these five goals—welcome, know, hope, plan, commit—in session one, the counseling begins on a solid foundation.”

Gospel Coalition | How to Talk to Your Children About Sex