To All the Men Who Just Got Outed on Ashley Madison…


Ashley Madison has been hacked, but that’s not news to you. No, you’ve been watching this story unfold very closely, hoping desperately that the data wouldn’t be made public.

Unfortunately for you, that was not the case. If you’re anything like the majority of men and women who just got outed in the breach, you probably have a few thoughts running through your mind right now:

  • Is my email on that list? Who am I kidding. I know it is.
  • Will my wife look for my name? Has she looked already?
  • Is there anything I can do to keep this secret hidden?

Your carefully crafted wall of deception now has this huge, gaping, obvious hole exposing the truth about you to anyone who wishes to look—and there’s absolutely nothing you can do to stop it at this point.

I know your pain.

I know your fear. 

My heart breaks for you, because I’ve been right where you are.

I know very personally the shame that comes from being found out, from being discovered, from coming face-to-face with the destruction your hidden life has been causing in the lives of everyone you love.

But I also know that for many people, myself included, this tragedy can also be the catalyst that springboards you into a life of freedom from the things that currently enslave you.

Today, this is the worst thing that has ever happened to you. But with time, if you humble yourself and learn the lessons that God has for you in this season, I am confident that you can someday look back upon this time in your life with thankfulness and praise.

My own story is far too long to fully share in a single post, as are the lessons that God taught me through my own sexual addiction, consequent exposure, and ongoing redemption. However, I would love to give you a free copy of my book, 10 Lies Men Believe about Porn, so that you may read the full account of how God worked in my life—even in the most tragic of circumstances.

Just use the coupon code “ASHMAD” on our bookstore to get a free copy today.

This is not the end of the road for you, my brother. No, this may in fact be the trailhead. Let me hand you the map that God gave me to follow through my own dark valley, and perhaps it will help you to find the deep love, acceptance, and intimacy that you were searching for on Ashley Madison.

10 Lies Men Believe about Porn Preview

Disclosure of Material Connection: Some of the links in the post above are "affiliate links." This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will add value to my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising."

PLEASE NOTE: I reserve the right to delete comments that are snarky, offensive, or off-topic. If in doubt, read My Comments Policy.